We all have colorful histories full of life experiences that made us who we are. They include times we treasure as well as difficult, traumatic events; before and after moments – one minute life is one way and the next it will not be the same again. Even change for the better can be difficult. […]
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No matter how beneficial, the emotion of guilt is uncomfortable. For instance, when you’ve done something you wish you hadn’t or said something you wish you didn’t or when you didn’t do or say something you wish you had. The feeling of guilt rises within and it’s everything you can do to stay in your
I couldn’t figure out what to write about this week. I was going to write about positive guilt, but I’m going to save that for next week and just tell you a couple of stories. Why? Because sometimes, I get tired of talking about trauma, contemplating how to have a better life or hearing about
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Yesterday, through the training I’m taking with Gabor Mate, I participated in an experiential workshop in something called Hakomi. Hakomi is a somatic, mindfulness-based approach to psychotherapy. We didn’t talk much about the modality, and I still don’t know a lot about it — but after experiencing the approach, I’m interested in learning more. I
Ever since I was eleven years old, I haven’t understood all the hoo-ha about NYE and The New Year. That was the first time I remember being excited about staying up late, watching the ball drop, and the potential of not only a new day but A NEW YEAR! The way it was presented, I
I wish you a new year filled with curiosity. When something works, get curious. When something doesn’t work, get curious. When you feel gratitude not prefaced with, I should feel grateful for (fill in the blank), get curious. Authentic gratitude bubbles up from within and is visceral*. Get curious when you feel happy, sad, mad,
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In recent years the concept of forgiveness has been all the rage. Sometimes it seems like a buzzword that equates to arriving at a holy place. When friends advise about difficult relations with others, the first question often is, can you forgive them? Say yes, and you’ll hear heavenly trumpets. Is something wrong with you
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I’m a big advocate of taking time off from life, stepping away from daily routines, responsibilities and chores, and giving yourself the space for an out-breath. I’m not talking about a long vacation with all its planning and expense. I’m referring to taking a day or two and jumping off of the merry-go-round that constitutes
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The following is a contemplation on love. Its purpose is to inquire about the subject, identify internal beliefs, and spark deeper thoughts about a familiar and complex topic. Love. The word is bandied about as if there’s an accepted definition that reigns glory over the landscape. Singers croon about it, preachers preach about it, advertisers
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I’m not into positive psychology or sugar-coating uncomfortable emotions with pretty words. Recognizing and getting to the root of feelings, facing discomfort, and integrating those difficult places are more interesting. Facing yourself is healing not just emotionally but mentally and physically as well. Getting curious about how you operate, what you believe, why you believe
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